A SAFETY PLAN
SAFETY DURING AN EXPLOSIVE INCIDENT
- If an argument seems unavoidable, try to have it a room or area that has access to an exit and not in a bathroom, kitchen or anywhere near weapons
- Practice how to get out of your home safely. Identify which doors, windows, elevator or stairwell would be best.
- Devise a code word to use with your children, family, friends and neighbors when you need the police.
- Decide and plan where you will go if your have to leave home (even if you don’t think you will need to)
- Always remember — You don’t deserve to be hit or threatened.
SAFETY WHEN PREPARING TO LEAVE
- Open a savings account in your name to establish or increase your independence.
- Leave money, an extra set of keys, copies of important documents and extra clothes with someone you trust so you can leave quickly
- Keep the shelter phone number close at hand and keep some change or a calling card on you at all times for emergency phone calls.
SAFETY IN YOUR HOME
- Change the locks on your doors as soon as possible
- Discuss a safety plan with your children for when you are not with them.
- Inform you children’s school, day care, etc., about who has permission to pick up your children.
KEEP TRACK OF YOUR STALKER
If you want to use the courts or police to protect yourself, you need to document what is happening to you so that it can be presented as evidence in court.
KEEP TRACK OF:
- all incidents of harassment of threat
- the feelings you experience about it
- measures you have taken to protect yourself
You can do this in a journal or diary; or you can keep a log especially for stalking. Shelter staff may also assist in documenting if we see him around the shelter. In keeping track; be sure to record:
- Date and Time
- Description of the Inciden
- Any Witnesses – names, addresses and telephone number
- Whether you phoned the Police
TIPS TO RELAX
Take a deep breath. Let the air out very slowly. Imagine you are breathing in energy and breathing out tension. Do this several times
Shrug your shoulders. Hold for a count of five. Relax
Stretch your arms wide over your head, or as far as you can.
Go for a walk
Call a friend or family member who cares
Go to see a movie
Listen to soft music
Give yourself a hug
Make a craft or paint a picture
Write a letter to someone or yourself
Take a bath
Read a book
Get your hair done
Take a nap
Treat yourself to an ice cream cone
Watch your favorite TV show